Breathe And Don’t Be Afraid, Because What Is True Endures

True love is born from the clash between two similar souls that meet and take root thanks to two mature and conscious minds, who respect each other, who love each other freely, but who choose to walk together. So, trust and don’t be afraid, don’t sow fears and worries in your heart because what is true endures. We take care of what is beautiful and have no reason to suffer.

We know that many people today cannot believe in this idea of ​​love because of the disappointments they suffered when they were deceived. But what they least trust is the following word: “durability”. How to get this? We live in the era of planned obsolescence, almost everything has an expiration date. Philosophical currents such as Zygmunt Bauman, father of liquid modernity, or the ever-defying Slavoj Zizek, who brings us his acidic social disenchantment, illustrate a reality where nothing lasts, where everything that transcends has little positive.

So, in this present where the majority deals with social discontent and where changes are always frequent… “How can we believe that there are still really lasting dimensions? How to believe in solid feelings, in eternal loves, in relationships that never give up?

Sir Francis Bacon said that all people are willing to believe what they would like to be true. Therefore, to build something true, a satisfying, happy and lasting relationship, we need not only to trust in love, but to believe in the individual, investing efforts, time and affection in that special person, in that loved one. Because what you love, you take care of; and what is taken care of is more likely to last.

True love in times of crisis and neuroscience

Love in times of crisis is not easy. It is not when there are economic difficulties, when millenials , for example, lack the means and resources to become independent, to create a stable relationship project that has reasonable expectations for the future. It is also not easy for someone who, hit by unemployment, plunges into a period of crisis, into a phase of uncertainty and anguish that impact the image he has of himself, which directly attacks his life project and affects his own personal development. Dimensions that influence this picture rich in tonalities that is a relationship.

True love is one who has learned to walk a tightrope with ease. Because life is not easy, we know, but good quality love, that of 24 carats, knows how to maintain balance in spite of life’s advances, in spite of external crises and, mainly, internal ones. Those crises in which one ends up doubting oneself, in which hopes and convictions are lost and self-esteem is diluted…

A good match, the conscientious lover and the exceptional person knows how to be our center, how to be our star Sirius, the brightest in the night sky, the ones that guide us back home…

Because, let’s face it, it doesn’t really matter to us that neuroscience tells us that love is the simple result of three ingredients: dopamine, oxytocin, and norepinephrine. We don’t care because the neurobiological reality doesn’t diminish the magic or the feeling one bit.

True love: a windfall that needs to be taken care of

Stephen Hawking once said that love is much more complicated than physics and that sometimes we spend so much time looking at the sky that we forget that what is most valuable in our life is on Earth. Anyway, sometimes we do this, we are careless even knowing that the feeling is true and that the person is the chosen one, but the reason why we behave like this is complex, multifaceted and sometimes incomprehensible to reason.

Love is strange, no doubt about it, but as Haruki Murakami said in “Sauce ciego, mujer dormida ”, such a thing rarely happens. Situations where we find someone with whom we can accurately demonstrate our state of mind, someone with whom it is possible to communicate with perfection… And this is a windfall that not everyone can take advantage of.

So, if that happens in our life and we manage to experience this wonderful casualty… Why not do it right? Why not put our feet on the ground, our heart at the center and our mind at the vibration level of maturity and responsibility?

No doubt it’s worth it because whoever saw us when we were invisible to others deserves everything we can give. Because whoever prefers you without needing you will take care of you as you deserve, over a low heat, with the flame alive and patiently, letting time and happiness make this love something lasting.